Looking to buy a used SUV 2006-2008 just wanting opinions on them I need 3rd row. Have 2 kids 11 & 9 & travel?

I need help on reliability, gas, stylish, how it drives, anything that can help!! I’ve had a 2002 Explorer w/ 3rd row really liked it had 160k on it and transmission went out had to replace and the resale value was horrible. i now have a 2005 Altima had it for several years now went back to a car because my ex-husband had a Chevy HD2500 4-dr and so I went back to a car for gas mileage but now we are divorced and I need something with more ROOM!! My car doesn’t have enough room for growing boys plus spend the night company. I like my Nissan it doesn’t have the smoothest ride it shakes and i have had it checked several times they say eveything is fine but i have read reviews on 2006 Pathfinders on shaking so if anyone can help on answering that. Because I don’t want the same problem again.
I love the body style of the 2007 Tahoe’s but I’m needing to stay at a price range of about $17,000 or less if possible.
Plus I’m not a mini-van mom at all I look real young for my age people often think my 11 year old is my brother.
Anyway my biggest thing is reliability, smooth ride, 3rd row a must, room, I need to be able to pull ATV’s behind on a trailer, DVD optional (can add) and something that can last me for at least the next 3 years…
But i’m wanting COMPARISON and OPINIONS on Nissan Pathfinder, Honda Pilot, Chevrolet Tahoe’s, Toyota 4Runner, maybe a Ford not sure if i want to go back to one!!! But anything on any of these or anything similar would really help thanks!!

Honda Pilot has 3 row seating and can tow a trailer. Plus it gets 25MPG (hwy) and will be reliable for over 300k miles. Can’t say that about Chevys and Fords.